Na Tum Jite Na Main Hari
Veena Kapur in her book- NA TUM JEETEY NA MAIN HAARI (NEITHER YOU WON NOR I LOST)- has written about the sufferings of divorced women in India. She says that-; Divorce goes against Indian culture and traditions.-but practically it is so for the woman only and not the man.
1. It is rare in India for a divorced woman to be taken seriously by men. Their assumption is – that she’s good for a bit of fun, she has no emotions, if she gets hurt again she can handle it, it’s happened to her before.
2. Divorced woman’s living standards drop because the money available has become zero and the expenses have risen.
3. Divorce means that a child’s world falls apart and the two people he/she loves best in the world don’t love each other anymore. This is devastating knowledge for the child who will be afraid, angry, depressed, rebellious or guilty and will act out these emotions in one way or another.
4. Woman dies socially when she is divorced. If she is a social being and sensitive, she is in for a few nasty surprises. Her common friends may choose to invite her ex-spouse and ignore your calls. Ouch, that hurts!
5. If a woman is young and divorcee, all males around her prowls to get sexual favours. This kind of unnecessary attention that she has suddenly getting can make her very uncomfortable.
6. Her self-esteem plunges to new depths. If she hasn’t had the good fortune to get a divorce by mutual consent, then she has been dragged through the divorce courts and undergoes tremendous character assassination.
Author says-; A divorced woman is still a human being, and that they cannot be wished away or left lying by the roadside, presumed dead. She has desires still left in her body. The divorced woman is not evil. She can desire companionship and a relationship that works. If you’re ready for another relationship – go out and mingle, live your life and learn to trust again.
About the Author:
- Veena Kapur, MA in Political Science is a housewife. She enjoys writing, and spends fixed time daily writing Hindi novels one after the other.
- Till date she has written about eight short novels which have been published and well received in the Hindi literature world.
- Veena Kapur is married for more than 50 years, and has two sons. Now she is also a grand mom to four kids.
- In her free time, drawing, reading, hiking in nature and travel are Veena Kapur’s pastimes.
- Also, Veena Kapur looks forward to reading many books, writing often, and developing her own interest and skill at writing.
- Main theme of her writings is “Women and their sufferings.”
- She has studied deeply the sufferings that women face and has related her research with the religious books wherein women’s sufferings are highlighted. In Mythological epics there are so many stories of women sufferer’s – Sita, Ahilya and Urmila in Epic Ramayana, Kunti, Draupadi and Gandharee in Epic Mahabharta and many more in other epics.
- In modern day India she has written a lot about the divorced women’s sufferings, sexploitation of women and the mental agony of young girls in love.
- Being a religious lady she has written about Hindu Dharma in detail in her book- “Aaj ka Bharat Dharma, Samaj aur Rajneeti” a must read book for all those who want to study Hinduism
She says that there is vast improvement in women’s life in today’s modern times but still there are other facts of life that she has studied and written about in her books. These are-;
- Taking birth as a woman in the Indian society can be said as curse for the women.
- Female infanticide is the most common practice of killing girl child in mother’s womb in the Indian society.
- Women in India are considered as burden for their parents and husbands as they think that women are here only to consume money whole life without earning a little bit.
- Another common problem for women is sex discrimination which they face from their birth and continues till their death.
- Illiteracy, lack of proper education, responsible for household works, rape, sexual harassment at workplace etc. are some big issues for the women in India.
- Dowry and Bride burning: Parents of grooms demand a lot of money from the bride’s family to be rich in one time. Groom’s family perform bride burning in case of lack of fulfilled dowry demand.
- Domestic violence: it is like endemic and widespread disease performed by the husband, relative or other family members.
- Girls have no property rights of property of her parents like boys.
- Child Marriages: Early marriage of the girls by her parents in order to escape from dowry.
- Status of widows: Widows of all ages, very young as well, are considered as worthless in the Indian society. They are treated poorly, forced to live in isolation and forced to wear white clothes. They are sexually exploited also.
- Paperback: 166 pages
- Publisher: White Falcon Publishing; 1 edition (2020)
- Author: Veena Kapur
- ISBN-13: 9789389932676
- Product Dimensions: 12.7 x 1 x 20.3 cm
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